Last time I wrote, it was on the big issue of naps.
Then something happened.
I met a sleep trainer at a baby group who was very nice and invited me to join her for a cup of tea after a few rounds of row row row your boat.
I was a bit nervous really. I don’t generally find meeting new people the easiest of things but since having a micro human I must be so desperate for adult conversation that I’ll talk to anyone!!
She didn’t know that I was stressing about naps but during our small talk asked the classic question “How’s sleep?”
She recommended a book that I promptly got and in my browsing chose another as well.
To my surprise, I read both books over a couple of evenings.
I didn’t think my brain would be able to do that, but back to the topic at hand.
Mr T and I agreed which one was more ‘us’, well actually he said we needed to do something that I would be happy with as I’m currently at home full-time and we set about operation nap time.
I won’t say which of the two books I got that was recommended to me as if there is one thing I’ve learnt in the brief time I’ve been parenting it’s that you have to do what works for you and your family – whether you have a partner, are doing it alone or have friends and family helping you out, so there is no judgement here.
Each book followed a different approach, although some parts to my surprise were quite similar but the book that spoke to me the most was The gentle sleep book: For calm babies, toddlers and pre-schoolers. By Sarah Ockwell Smith.
We started ‘operation nap time’ at a weekend when we would both be home and I think this made me more relaxed as I knew I had my wing man with me.
We knew it could be a long process and I was dreading it.
I won’t bore you with what the book says – if it’s applicable to you, you can read it or ask me but in summary, and this really is a summary: I am going with the flow and as a result nap times at home are so much easier.
That is not to be misinterpreted as easy, sorted and perfect but we are in the very early stages of a routine that is working
I am less stressed about ‘naps’ and Baby is sleeping (by the way, it’s not that she wasn’t napping before but it was quite a fractious time because I had set my expectations far too high).
So while this is working, I am celebrating.